How can you make the holidays more enjoyable this year?
Decide, Delegate and Dump
by Kathy Atkinson
First, decide to enjoy them! Decide to have fun and enjoy yourself this year. Next, decide how to make that happen for yourself. What is important to you? What traditions do you enjoy? Do you enjoy the shopping, the baking, the parties, or the family get together? What parts of the holidays don’t you enjoy? The shopping, the baking, or the cleaning?
If you don’t enjoy the shopping, what can you do to make the task easier?
Can you shop online? Can you limit the gift giving to one gift each? Can you limit the amount you spend on each person? Can you decide to just give gift certificates this year, give money or make a donation in the recipient’s name?
Second, it may be time to delegate the tasks that you don’t like.
If you don’t like the cleaning, can you hire someone to do your holiday cleaning or can you assign the cleaning tasks to members of your family? If you choose to delegate cleaning tasks to others, you have to be able to accept the job that is done by them. If you are going to complain or redo the job they do, you’ve defeated the whole purpose and probably caused yourself more stress. This is where you have to decide to accept the help that is available and then let it go. So what if the house isn’t dusted perfectly or the bathroom mirror has streaks on it, at least you didn’t have to do it.
Can you delegate the baking to someone else this year? Can you let the kids do the baking this year? Do the cookies really have to look perfect? If they do, can you just order a cookie tray from the local bakery?
Can you cut back on the amount you bake? I’ve noticed in the last several years that my family and friends have given up eating a lot of the sweets and treats and I am left with lots of leftovers that I don’t want to eat either. If you really love the baking, start early and put it in the freezer.
Now the tough part, decide what you can dump from your holidays? Do you really need to get out every decoration? Do you have to have lights outside? Do you really need to make dozens and dozens of cookies? Do you really need to send Christmas cards to everyone you know this year?
What can you dump or delegate in order to enjoy yourself this holiday season? You have to decide for yourself. Where is your comfort zone?
Decide to be happy and enjoy the holidays. You can’t make everyone happy, only yourself. Participate in all the holiday activities because you want to, not because you feel obligated.
Decide what it is that you love to do in order to prepare for and participate in the festivities.
Delegate the tasks you don’t enjoy and then don’t complain about how they get done.
Dump anything that doesn’t really make a difference in the scheme of things. Just because you’ve always made cookies, doesn’t mean you have to continue to do so.
Changing just one thing this year can make a difference in your enjoyment of the holidays.
Start new traditions…give gift cards, establish family cleaning days, order cookies, have everyone bring a dish to holiday gatherings instead of preparing everything yourself.
If you are the type that enjoys everything about the holidays or you really have no big part in managing all the tasks that are required to make the holidays a success, I challenge you to help someone you know with a task that you might be good at or could take care of easily so they might enjoy the holidays more.
Have a wonderful holiday season.
Copyright 2006, Creative Life Coaching