Sunday, August 27, 2006

Do You Want To Be Right or Happy?

Do You Want To Be Right or Happy?
by Kathy Atkinson

Almost on a daily basis, we encounter people and situations that have the potential to annoy or frustrate us in some way.

I use the word potential because it is our choice to be annoyed with the person or situation, or not. We may be perfectly justified in our annoyance or even anger, but we can’t be happy and also annoyed, frustrated, or angry at the same time.

Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?

How often do you find yourself frustrated and annoyed with people and situations in your life? If someone offers a comment that makes you angry, how long do you typically replay it over and over again in your mind? You may be right and justified in your anger, but it is preventing you from feeling happy.

If you have to wait in a long line at the store or have to deal with the grumpy sales clerk, how many people do you relate that story to over and over again? How long do you focus on that annoying situation and keep it alive at the cost of your peace and happiness?

You have the choice to let the petty little annoyances go or hang on to them.

Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?

Action Challenge

1. Pay attention over the next few weeks and notice how often you are triggered by annoying events or people in your life.
2. Notice how long you let these annoyances affect your happiness.
3. Notice how many people you feel compelled to tell about your frustrating circumstances.
4. Make a conscious choice to let these issues go as quickly as possible.
5. No matter how justified you are, make your happiness a priority.

Stop and ask yourself on a regular basis, "In this situation, do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?".

Copyright 2006, Creative Life Coaching


Anonymous said...

makes perfect sense. however, as human beings we seem to be hard wired to always want to be right. it's going to be difficult to change these behaviourial patterns. said...

I would rather be happy and give up my need to be right all the time. This need to be right comes from the ego. But we are better than our ego, so we don't have to listen to our egos.